When a youngster enters middle school, friendship problems may begin to present themselves in new ways. This time is a special time that they are preparing to pull away from their parents. Making good friends can give them good influence that they can enjoy a heathier growing-up. Or, making with bad guys, your kids may become breaking guys.
Here are a few simple strategies that will help you guide your tween through these difficult social years.
Be a Good Friend for Others
First make a good friend, you should be a good friend for others. So be sure your kids that gossiping about a friend isn't friendly, this is a basical reqirement. Then tell them what kind of friend is good for him. For example, when you are sick, your friend can call on and ask if you are better now, or after a sleepover at your home, your friend can help you to clean your room. Making some family activities including family movie or game night, these can foster his friendship.
Take Care of Their Behaviors
Maybe tweens don't take more care of their behaviors which may make his/her potential friends away. Tell them to take a good attitude and make a good appearance in daily life. If they keep smile when approach to new classmates? Let them to know relize that these, for example, what does her body language tell people? does she look her peers in the eye or keep her gaze towards the floor? does she respect other people's opinions and talents, or resent them for being different from her? If them are so mighty or coward, they will have troubles to make friends.
Keep Her Active
We all want to be in crowd. But in young, don't let your kids have a baggage of deciding who she is. Just push her to join a certain group of friends, or take part in certain "cool" activities because you think she'll be happier that way. Allow your tween to discover activities that she enjoys, and to choose friends who are supportive of her and provide a positive influence. Keeping your tween involved in activities is a good way for her to make friends with similar interests, as well as expand her circle of friends.
Encourage Diversity
Make your kids make more kinds of friends, it's important to help your tween blend socially, without sacrificing her individuality. Make sure your tween understands that she doesn't have to belong to a certain clique to be happy. Encourage her to make friends with amiable children who may share her interests, or are just nice to be around. In other words, her friends don't have to come from just one social group, in fact, they probably shouldn't.
Keep Clam When Encounter Problem with Friends
Kids are easily to be moody, angry, and direct expressed by facial expression or words. When they are, help your tween deal with her emotions and encourage her to calm down before approaching her friend about their problems and help her develop her problem solving skills. Help her try to understand the problem from her friend's point of view.
Be a Good Listener to Your Kids
Listen to your child everyday as she talks about school, the bus, sports, or parties. Attentive listening will provide you with a lot of information about her friends and their behavior. Take quick action if you suspect negative behaviors are taking place.
Help your tween if you think she's involved in a toxic friendship. A real friend will give her confidence and boost her self-esteem. So, take care of this detail, let your kids have a positive friendship and enjoy their happy life freely.
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